Believing in yourself - this is one of the "biggies" of creating your dream life - the life that inspires you and makes you happy!
Believing in yourself is a process and a journey, rather than an activity that you can switch on when you want to.
You may have had an excellent childhood, with wonderful parents who cared for you and loved you, friends who supported you, and a network of people in your life to give you values and ideals that make you feel that you belong and give you meaning. If this is you, then I am happy for you because you are doing better than many other people in the world! It's much easier for you to believe in yourself because you have the background that makes self-belief easy.
However, if, like me, you had a childhood where a member of your family or your classmates at school were not friendly, treated you badly, teased you and bullied you and said that you were stupid, then you will have a much harder time believing in yourself than someone who did not have those problems.
To start believing in yourself, you need to recognize that it doesn't matter how people have treated you or what has happened in your life - YOUR VALUE is YOUR VALUE. It doesn't change based on what other people think or whether they accept you or reject you.
When you were small, you didn't understand what you understand now. You were just a young child, open to love and be loved. When that didn't happen, you thought there must be something wrong with you if your basic needs were not being met.
Well, you thought WRONGLY. Actually, there was nothing wrong with you - there was something wrong with them. You are not to blame for the way you were treated. You were left feeling, "I was robbed!" Yes, you were, but since when does that make YOU the bad guy? If a bank gets robbed, who's the bad guy - the bank manager or the bank robber? What if the bank manager says, "Oh, no! My bank got robbed! I'm such a BAD bank manager. I'm a terrible person. My life sucks! Now I hate myself and I want to die." Won't his staff say, "What's this? You didn't do anything wrong! It was the robber who stole the money!"
Understand that this is the way you thought when you were about 7 years old or even younger, but that it doesn't serve you now that you're older - and it doesn't even make any logical sense! Then you were a victim, but now you're a survivor.
So start with that, and begin thinking differently! You will find that a lot of your lack of self-belief is rooted in this thinking you've had in your mind since childhood. Believing in yourself is a big topic and I will write more blog posts on this in the future but this will start you off for now! I hope it can grant you the beginning of a new life, re-examined and re-evaluated, that gives you a solid foundation to build your dreams in the future!
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